No No Nanny
Since
last November I don't have live in help. Actually the only help left in our
service is the driver and he will soon leave on his yearly vacation next June.
How
did I end up in this situation? Well when the nanny left it was on the
understanding, which we reached, that she would come back. She even left a lot of
her things behind. Anyway, her leave was at an end there was no news from her.
When we finally reached her, she was making excuses, and it was obvious she wasn’t
intending to come back.
When she first left it was a bit chaotic at home. It took me a couple of weeks to get my
bearings and manage my schedule to be there for my kids and work and at the same
time maintaining a social life. Thank God my kids are not small. I was put in a
similar situation when they were younger and it was a nightmare, and it always
made me wonder how mothers without help managed. But now they are old enough to
take care of themselves, maybe the only problem I'm facing is I'm always rushed
and I find myself short on time. However, I'm lucky to have the support of my
sisters who are there to help whenever I need them. Actually, now my kids spend
their weekends at my parent's home. It gives me time for myself and slow down
for a couple days. I guess it is the only thing which is keeping me sane.
I
have a contract with a company who comes during the day twice sometimes three
times a week to clean up. The rest I do myself and my kids also pitch in. That
is the best part of not having help in the house. My kids are more responsible and pick after themselves.
They are calmer, their attitude has changed to the better.
It
isn't that I've ruled out having help, right now I'm enjoying playing the domestic/superwoman
part, but since I might be traveling soon leaving my boys and their father
behind, I guess they will need some help around the house. Well… we'll see how
it will go.